Sorry guys, this is one for the naturist women. But that doesn’t particularly mean that you have to stop reading here, some of the tips we’ll be giving can certainly be applied to both genders. The reason why we decided to write this piece is because we do receive a lot of questions from our female readers who are curious about the nudist lifestyle but have several doubts about what to expect, how to take the first step and whether it would be something for them. How do things go at a nude beach or nudist resort? How do you act? Who will be the other people? And how will that first nude experience be?
It is a fact that the first steps into nudism can be considered more difficult for women than for men. The fashion industry, the food industry and the media have been telling us for ages that we are not good enough the way we are and we have been spending loads of money buying their clothes, their diet books and their expensive jewelry to make us feel just that little bit more beautiful.
And now you’ve seen this documentary on tv about nudism or you read something about it in a magazine or you’ve found that wonderful website called Naked Wanderings and it has tickled your imagination. Can you be as comfortably naked as all those other naked women out there? Are you ready to expose yourself to all those others? How does it work? And how the hell do you start with this?
1. Don’t underestimate the first step, but don’t overestimate it either.
Many life long nudists say that it’s easy, just take off your clothes and you’re done. Baloney! They’ve just forgotten about their first time. It’s a huge leap out of your comfort zone and it could be compared to your first day at a new school, at a new job or in a city on the other side of the world where nobody speaks your language. Just keep that in mind. It is a big step, but you’ll get over it and you’ll be fine and afterward you’ll laugh about your anxiety. There is some truth in what the life long nudists say, being naked soon becomes so comfortable that it will be hard to remember how big that first step really was.
2. Do try this at home.
Being comfortably naked comes in two phases, before you feel okay being naked among others, it’s important to get used to the idea of being naked at all. So why not give it a try first somewhere where you’re alone? Like at home. Just hang around an hour a day or half a day in the weekend in the nude. You’ll feel more relaxed about being naked and that’s already half of the way to go.
3. Look, but don’t expect to be looked back at.
Most aspiring nudies have barely seen any naked body in real life except for the ones of their partner, besties and close family members. And suddenly you’re in the middle of a group of naked strangers. What do you do with your eyes?
It’s perfectly normal to have a good look around, this is all new to you. If all the others would be minions you’d surely look around as well. Just don’t stare too much at people, that’ll make them feel uncomfortable.
It’s perfectly normal to have a good look around, this is all new to you. If all the others would be minions you’d surely look around as well. Just don’t stare too much at people, that’ll make them feel uncomfortable.
Many first time nudists are surprised that nobody is looking at them. There you are, in all your glory and nobody is even giving you a blink of an eye? The point is that we are used to seeing naked people. It’s not that we don’t think you’re beautiful or attractive, it just doesn’t make any difference to us whether you’re naked or clothed.
4. Private or public
There are different ways to categorize nudist venues but one of the main ones is between private and public places. The most common public nude places are of course beaches but nudity is sometimes also allowed at lakes, parks or forests. The good thing about these is that they are more likely to be free. Private places, on the other hand, are campgrounds, clubs, resorts, spas or any other place with an owner.
We would advise you to pick a private place for your first time because there’s more security and often a better male/female balance. Not that anything bad is likely to happen at a public place, in all those years that we have been nudists we didn’t have any very negative encounter, but for your first time it’s just better to be sure. At least that’s our opinion.
5. Clothing optional or nude
Another way to categorize the nudie spots is between clothing-optional places and clothing prohibited places. As the names say, at a clothing-optional place you’re still allowed to wear some clothing (although it’s often expected that you take them off eventually) and at the other ones you have to go all the way.
Many nudies will advise you to pick a clothing optional place for your first time so you can take things slow, we don’t believe in that. The longer you wait, the more difficult it can get. It’s like slowly walking into the cold water or jumping right in.
Many nudies will advise you to pick a clothing optional place for your first time so you can take things slow, we don’t believe in that. The longer you wait, the more difficult it can get. It’s like slowly walking into the cold water or jumping right in.
Here an insider tip: Wearing bathing suits is not allowed at clothing prohibited places, but wearing a sarong is. If you’re not ready to go full monty from the first minute, just get undressed and wrap a towel or sarong around you. It will make you feel more comfortable and it’s much easier to take off once you’re ready.
6. Towel, sunscreen and a good book
There are a couple of rules among nudies to keep things pleasant for everybody and the use of a towel to sit on is one of the most important ones. It’s all about hygiene, if everyone would put down their sweaty behind where they feel like it, soon nobody would like to use the deck chairs anymore.
Another important one is sunscreen. We know that you already have this beautiful golden tan and that you won’t get sunburned anymore even after a whole day of baking on the beach. But remember that now you’re a nudie, you will have some white body parts again and believe us, you don’t want those to get burned!
And lastly, being naked has a really relaxing and de-stressing effect (after that first adrenaline boost of course), so why not improve this even more by reading a good book instead of checking your Facebook? You know you’re not going to post any photos today anyway.
7. Who to take?
It’s really important to take someone you feel comfortable with. Your partner might be an obvious choice or one of your close friends. It would be a good start if you’ve already seen each other naked so that’s one thing less to worry about.
Going alone is also an option but since this is a new experience it’s just better if you can share it with someone. Having to call your friend saying “Oh my god I just had the most amazing new experience, you should have been there!” is just not the same as sharing the moment.
Going alone is also an option but since this is a new experience it’s just better if you can share it with someone. Having to call your friend saying “Oh my god I just had the most amazing new experience, you should have been there!” is just not the same as sharing the moment.
8. Attention from men
We know how it goes, it’s Friday night, we dress up, enter the bar and soon there are a couple of guys looking at you. A smile here, a wink there and if you’re lucky you’re soon offered a cocktail. So what must that be when you’re completely naked?
A nudist place is not a bar and men don’t go there in search for a new love. Yes, romances do occur, but just like they would at the tennis club. And it’s not because everyone is naked that those don’t start with dinner and a movie.
A nudist place is not a bar and men don’t go there in search for a new love. Yes, romances do occur, but just like they would at the tennis club. And it’s not because everyone is naked that those don’t start with dinner and a movie.
9. What if you make a mistake?
This is a whole new experience, a whole new lifestyle and chances are that you will make a mistake. For example, we can promise you that one day or another you will forget to use your towel. All confident you’ll be walking towards the bar, place yourself in one of the chairs and wonder what the others are frowning about. And then you notice… No worries, just a simple “sorry, still a newbie” will turn those frowns into understanding smiles.
Here’s another insider tip: No matter how excited you are about your newly gained experience, doing the happy dance next to the pool is never a good idea. Falling down can be really painful and doing so with your full moon rising is just not funny. At least not for you.
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I agree with your comments, and thanks! I would only suggest using a different word than “nudie” since that somehow evokes those silly 1960’s exploitation movies about martians visiting old-time nudist “colonies”.
Thanks for the insight Charlie! We use the word “nudie” because we feel that the words “naturist” and “nudist” have quite a heavy undertone and we met quite a few (mostly young) people who like to visit nude beaches and go to nudist resorts but don’t want to be called a nudist/naturist. Therefor we’re searching for a better word. All suggestions are welcome!
‘Nudie’ seems fine in this context. When describing this part of our lives we initially use the term ‘naturists’ as it’s often misinterpreted and as a result becomes a conversation starter which often presents an opportunity to explain which can remove some misconceptions.
However here I believe that if a person is on this site then it is fair to say the conversation has well and truly started. I also think the term will normalise the way we are perceived in much the same way that the term foodies has worked for those who have a passion for experiencing culinary delights.
I regard myself lucky as I’ve grown up in a naturist family. All the points you make are valid and its great to read something from someone who understands. Home naturism/nudism is a very important part of the process, I think, as it helps you to build self confidence and also it encourages you to feel like it is a natural thing to do. Anything that helps you build confidence in yourself is so important and I’d also say having family or close friends to share the experiences with is also a big part of the enjoyment.
Thanks for your words
Me too live with my mother in home we be naked it a live style
You guys are awesome! 🙂 I read Your Blog since the beginning and it is super funny and also well organized.
The message You spread is very unique. I do the same thing via my Blog and Podcast 🙂 There is still many things to explain to people about not only being nude (which is the only natural state of being) but also about how it connect with social behavior. Still nudity is forbidden so it sound like natural state of humankind is forbidden?:) How crazy is this? 🙂 Another point of view is gaining you consciousness and balancing your energy. Togather with my wife when we visit Croatian Camps we feel totally different than in a city. This has very much to do with our energy inside our body. Nudity gains not only self-awareness but also gives us more power to overcome daily struggle. It’s a pure process of deconstruction from the box which is still our reality. So I really am a huge fan of You two and I keep fingers crossed for Your future projects. PS. Reviews are super helpful! 🙂 All the best from Poland:)
Well said! You brought up lots of good points!
Something I think about when considering recommending private nude space (resort, spa, etc) vs public nude space (beach) for a newbie is that the private spaces are more likely to be populated by people with an ideology, an ethic, a philosophy to their nakedness – people looking out for one another who want a safe space and who are policing it to keep it that way. Public spaces can be more of a free for all and participants can be there for any number of reasons, both good and bad. I agree with your sentiment: I’ve not had any negative experiences at a public beach, but I *have seen more behavior at public beaches which made me cautious or wary to recommend a first-timer choose that option if a private space is readily available.
Thanks for writing!
Family friendly, economic weekend and/or holidays where kids run around in perfect safety, showing up when they get hungry. For me social nudity is all about “Naturism”. No cloths to keep clean other than a towel or two. Older people get together in perfect harmony sharing naked company with it’s thrill and fraternity giving a terrific sense of communal bonding in later life. The whole mix is something very special that only nudity can bring out and make known. I’ve typed this naked and am getting a great sense of sharing with like minded people.
I agree that there are considerable impediments for women when faced with the concept of social nudity as we mentioned in our ‘Naturist Talks’ submission it was our wives that discussed the situation between themselves.
While Kim didn’t mention that they discussed any of the points raised in the article I strongly believe that these factors, media and marketing based, were the primary drivers for some of their concerns about approaching social nudity as I’ve observed these, for want of a better word, prejudices in other areas of our lives.
I also think that having the discussion in person and in front of a PC was a benefit over more indirect methods as these types of conversations ‘flow’ more easily and the PC allowed them access to information, that could be immediately discussed, on the potential venue.
You said this was for women ; still I read it and found it very intelligent as usual, and useful for men to read too.
Naked wanderings is a beautiful place !
Nick & Linz, you still rock!! We love your blog, and we will always cherish the advice you both gave us on our very first venture into this fantastic lifestyle! You were warm, welcoming and offered friendly tips without becoming instructors.
All newbies need some help in my view, they are always going to be very self conscious (male or female) and may feel quite shy to engage with others when they finally pluck up the courage. If I can recommend, it is amazing when someone comes to you, looks you in the eye and says “Hi, would you like to join us?”. All the shackles of momentary embarrassment disappear very quickly and then suddenly, you are not a newbie anymore – this is exactly what Nick & Linz did for us, and we are eternally grateful.
Thanks to you both for your amazing inputs on this incredible blog. Missing you guys…..
Cheers to that! Many thanks for your support!
A women’s first nude experience is so very important. If it is bad, odds are she will never try it again. Unlike restaurants, where if you have a bad meal at a place, you won’t go back to that restaurant, but still eat out. First time nude women seem to think if their first experience going nude in public is bad, all places are bad. That is we we always suggest you heavily research where to go for your first experience. Sadly, we know of many people that have called that had a bad first experience and the people wonder how can they get their gf/wife to try a 2nd experience. Go to a place that caters to couples. We don’t recommend nude beaches for your first experience, but instead nudist/naturist resorts. Relax and have fun because that is what nude recreation is all about.
Very good points Tom, and you can probably say the same for many men as well. If their first social nude experience was a negative one, they might never try it again.
we are about to embark on our first experience as naturist/nudist. Would you recommend going first to a family oriented naturist campground or an adult only (21+) naturist campground.
Hi Philip, that’s a very difficult question to answer because we don’t know anything about you. We have no idea where you’re from and what your expectations are. It’s like asking a stranger what is the best place for you to go on holiday.
But we can try to give you some directions. If you have any children and you’re planning to introduce them to naturism later on, we would definitely recommend you to visit a family oriented campground.
Also if you’re interested in the “basics” of naturism, in having a relaxed nude day with chill people, have a skinny dip, enjoy the sun and a good book and maybe meet some likeminded people, the family campground is where you want to go.
If you like a good party or don’t like being around children, you probably want to go to the adults only camping. But here’s the tricky part… In some places around the world there’s a term for sexual places. “Liberal” is often used (e.g.in France and Brazil), in the USA they use “lifestyle”. But in other places they just hide behind the name nudism or naturism. It’s really something you have to know if you don’t want to be surprised.
If you want better advice than the above, please give us some more info about where you’re from and what you expect 😉
I’m a nudie. Been one most of my life. Very hard to find anyone to join me and I usually find my own places to get nude.
I know I hear ya man. I have a few but they are at distance 3+ hours away
i wonder how women feel about this?
i suport and respect women 100%