There are many reasons why people are reluctant to engage into nudism. We believe that the number one reason, with head and shoulders, is how even the idea of being nude makes them feel uncomfortable. Basically, it comes down to shame. And basically, many of the other reasons people come up with like jealousy, religion and modesty also come down to the same thing. We don’t really like how we look. We have all these little or big things we prefer to keep away from the eyes of the outside world.
Many people don’t see this as a life changing problem. We got used to dress to impress and hide our vulnerabilities with clothes and accessories. Or sometimes we use the most simple trick of them all: We turn off the lights. Several researches have shown that more than half of the people only have sex in the dark. Millions rarely or never see their partner in the nude at all. For us that’s quite unimaginable, but then again, it’s each their choice. However, when this has a negative foundation, like fear or shame, it’s something that could be important to overcome. Becoming comfortably nude might be a huge improvement for the rest of your life.
It also becomes an issue when your partner appears to be a nudist. When your nudity (or lack of it) becomes an important factor in your relationship. In the past we’ve written blog posts like Help! My Baby is a Nudist in which we explain what nudism is all about. Or How to Tell Your Significant Other where we talk about bringing the nudism subject on the table.
This post is different. This one is for those who struggle taking off their clothes. Among others or sometimes even when they are on their own.
This post is different. This one is for those who struggle taking off their clothes. Among others or sometimes even when they are on their own.
Step 1: Start alone and face yourself
Nudist partners can be a bit pushy. And we’re certainly not just talking about men here. We’ve met several women around the world whose husband didn’t want to hear anything about nudism and who were trying to convince him. Anyway, every time you make a small step towards becoming comfortably nude, the last thing you want is a thumbs up, a pat on the back or a “good for you baby, good for you!”. So it’s better to take this first step all by yourself.
When was the last time you had a good look at your body? As in a real good look, not just a quick flash in the mirror while jumping from the shower into a towel. Now is a good time to do so. Get undressed, stand in front of the mirror and take the time to look at yourself.
We’re not going to set up some body confidence course in which we would ask you to do this twice a day and say something positive about yourself. Although these things certainly wouldn’t hurt. The main idea of this step is that when you want to become comfortable naked among others, you have to become comfortably naked in front of yourself first.
Step 2: Reflect on reality
Chances are that this first step has not gained you much more confidence. It could well be that it was more like a slap in the face. You’ve just been confronted with what you’ve been trying to hide and ignore for many years. This has been just another confirmation that in reality you look nothing like the average person you see in magazines or on TV.
Please re-read that last sentence we just wrote. There’s one big mistake in it. Can you find it? It’s the word “average”. The bodies you’re so used to see in the magazines are not average. These are professional models. And not only that, in the large majority of the cases they are photoshopped as well. It’s time for a reality check.
The average height of an adult American female is about 5 feet and 4 inches (162.5 cm). Her weight is 166 pounds (75 kg). The average American male is about 5 feet 9 inches (175 cm) and weighs 195 pounds (88.5 kg). That doesn’t really sound like those magazine models, does it?
If you’d like to know the statistics about your own country, check here the average human weights and average human heights for your country.
If you’d like to know the statistics about your own country, check here the average human weights and average human heights for your country.
There’s a lot more interesting data to be found online. For example that the average breast size in Europe is a B, in Asia it’s an A and in the USA it’s an F. The average penis size is about 3.5 inches (8.8 cm) when flaccid and 5.1 inches (12.9 cm) when erect. It’s estimated that 80% of all people have stretch marks. And we can keep going on like this for every part of your body you may feel insecure about.
Step 3: Learn to be nude
This may sound a bit weird, but being nude is something you actually have to learn. It’s a habit you’ve forgotten since about the day you turned three years old. Luckily, it’s much easier than learning how to get dressed. There are no sizes to remember, no models that may or may not suit you and no colour combinations. The only thing you have to learn is to understand that you actually look great naked.
When we walk on a textile beach, many times we think that a person would look so much better without clothes. This is not a sexual thought and neither are we talking about 21 year old super models. The very large majority of people just doesn’t look good in bathing suits.
Learning to be naked is something you can only do by practicing. Start walking around naked in the house now and then. Stop wearing a towel or putting on clothes when you walk from the bedroom to the shower to the toilet or to the kitchen for a midnight snack. Try some moves when you’re naked. Do some yoga poses or a happy dance. Try cleaning, chilling, reading, gardening, dish washing, whatever possible naked.
Step 4: Involve someone you trust
If you’re in a relationship and especially if you’ve been trying to be comfortably nude because your partner is a nudist as well, now is the time to announce what you’ve been doing when he or she was away. Forget the thumbs up, your new found progress will be greeted with awe and amazement.
It’s time to start doing things in the nude together. This might be the most fun step of all, so make sure to enjoy it to the fullest. Sunbathe in the garden together in the nude. Watch TV together in the nude. Clean the shower together in the nude. Have private nude dinner parties. Tell everyone you’re going away for the weekend but just stay two full days naked at home.
For singles this step might be more difficult because you’ll have to find a friend or family member who’s comfortably naked as well. If you don’t find someone like this, no worries. Then just forget about this step and move on to the next one.
Step 5: Getting naked among strangers
Many think that this is the hardest step, but we don’t really agree. If you’ve been through all four of the previous steps, this one won’t be much more than a next phase. It is a bit of a weird step though, that much is sure. Because when you think about it, how many people have seen you naked during your life? How many naked people have you seen? Chances are that one visit to the nude beach or nudist resort will double, triple, decuple or even centuple that amount.
It’s much less scary than it actually sounds. Because there are a couple of things you have to keep in mind:
✅ Although many others will look very body confident, they all had a first time nude experience too.
✅ Everyone is different, but when you look at the statistics of Step 2, they’ll all be average in a way.
✅ Most of the others have seen hundreds if not thousands of other naked people. There’s no way that they will think you look any worse or better than anyone they’ve seen before.
The most important part of this step is to find the right place your first time social nude experience. Check out our Complete Guide for the First Time Nudist for good tips and tricks.
Step 6: Test what you like to do in the nude
It’s a misunderstanding that all nudists want to do as much as possible naked. Some of them certainly do. But the large majority picks their spots and activities. This is one of the main reasons why some people who enjoy nude beaches or the naked spa are afraid to go to a naturist campsite or nudist club. Because they think that they will be expected to do things in the nude which they don’t really want to do.
Nude sports is a good example. It’s not because you’re comfortable spending an afternoon baking on the nude beach that you’ll suddenly also like a naked run or nude volleyball tournament. Nude yoga is another one. We also found our first nude yoga experience quite ehm… in our face. We definitely understand that for many nudists, nude yoga is one step too far.
Last week we’ve met a woman who has been a naturist for more than five years but still doesn’t like to go naked to the restaurant of the naturist campsite. And that’s perfectly fine. Take your time to see which activities you enjoy being nude and which you don’t. If you don’t like them because of body issues, you might want to push yourself a little and who knows you’ll gain even more body confidence. But if you just happen not to like them, don’t force yourself.
Each nudist place has different rules about when you’re supposed to be naked but at the large majority you definitely have some options for a comfortable nude experience.
Each nudist place has different rules about when you’re supposed to be naked but at the large majority you definitely have some options for a comfortable nude experience.
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Is it proper to be erect at a resort..since it may happ
Erections can happen and you’re expected to handle them with decency. Turn on your belly or put a towel around until it goes away.
It’s not proper, though it could happen. But most will find that this type of nudity isn’t a that big of a turn on.
it depends on the resort. the few in cali /Arizona/New Mexico dont have many strict rules. one them is not to “play” with it.
Step 3 — Learn to be nude — rang true for me. It did take a while to feel comfortable being nude in all situations, but it eventually happened. Now, I feel the same clothed or naked — I never want to go back to feeling uncomfortable nude again.
Just want to see if there is a place for a little vacation, where there is ladies and possible casual romance ,and fun,with relationship potential
Regarding Step 3, I was just out of college and in my first apartment. It had nothing to do with becoming a nudist, just experiencing the freedom of living without consideration of family or roommates. I’d always been comfortable being naked in a bedroom, bathroom, or locker room. It didn’t matter if I was alone, with my dad, or other males. Still, the physical sensations and emotional feelings of walking nude into the apartment’s living room was awesome. Strange how something experienced daily took on such importance when done in a different context. It was the first step of a very long journey into home nudity.
Yes, learning to be nude is important. Being a ‘home naturist’ is a great start. The novelty wears off within minutes, and then you think it’s natural – which it is – and acceptance kicks in. I don’t wish to offend (over-looking) neighbours so I always have clothes to put on quickly.
Being naked in the local Gym & Sauna feels acceptable as everyone is sweaty and hot. I may be flabby around the edges but isn’t everyone eventually to an extent as life goes on.
Re: an erection at a resort. If you are in the pool area, an immediate jump into the pool takes care of it.
At our resort, I tend to wear a sarong or shorts when I am in the cafe, easier than bringing a towel with me.
Hello,
I normally stay naked in the house sadly not much outside except one area where I have set up my BBQ in an open tent shelter, but I have often wondered if I should answer the door naked when someone comes to the door? May I ask what you do?
That depends completely on who’s at the door 🙂
During the recent hot very hot weather in the UK a few weeks ago (July/August) when temperatures were reaching a humid 32C/33C, I was working at home. I sat just inside the house (in the shade) with the patio doors open, working on my laptop, occasionally taking a walk around the garden and talking to my neighbours over the garden fence.
Each day I ordered food and beers from two seperate businesses. One day when the first delivery arrived, instead of slipping something I thought “what the hell” and answered the door in the nude. I didn’t open the door wide and stand there displaying myself, I opened it halfway and stood partially behind it, enough to be able to take the delivery and enough to hide my bits behind the door. The delivery person would have realised I was nude though because nearly one half of me would be visible. They might also have been able to tell as I approched the front door because the top half is glass, but textured glass, so there would be no detail visible.
Ater the first one I simply continued with it for about about 3 weeks. 2/3 of the delivery people were men and the other 1/3 women. Not one commented or complained, and several times it was the same people.
I’ve been living the nudist dream fulltime for years. Nude is natural in fact I must occasionally be reminded to put clothes on before we leave the resort. Nick and Lins are absolutely right it is a wonderful life. Try a nude vacation to a local nudist club it is very relaxing.
Way off this topic . Nick and Lins I hope toy are ok in this corona virus shut down. I don’t know where you are or where you would rather be but I hope things are ok. The world has changed, let’s hope it changes for the good. All the best
Julian
My advice: If you are reading this, you are already commited to trying out social nudity. So, just do it. Find out where your nearest nude beach is, drive there and go nude. My first time, my heart was pounding all the way getting there. And then I arrived and something strange and wonderful happened. Getting out my clothes was the easiest, most natural thing to do.
I had lost 40 lbs on a diet program. The counselor asked what would I want when I lost the weight. Later I said that I would go to a nudist “colony.” Well I did, but on the 60 mile drive I almost turned off 5 times. When I got there I took their tour, went out to my car and took 30 minutes to get out of my clothes. When I got to the pool, the people were so friendly and supportive that within 2-3 minutes I was comfortable and never looked back. That was 12 years ago.
i wish i could talk to them but i don’t know what to say
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I’ve been a nudist/naturist for the better part of 45 years of my 65 year existence. Looking in the mirror is an important part of learning to be comfortably naked. I have mirrors in the bedroom, bathroom, shower, and living room. For me, mirrors are an important part of this lifestyle, especially when you are single. I constantly say to myself, “you are looking good today” or “you need to do something about that bit of fat gathering around the mid-section” It enables me to be conscious of my overall wellbeing and health and to do something about it. You will find that you will start to walk around with a more positive and confident gait, shoulders back and head held high. That, in itself, switches your brain to a more positive attitude and turns off the doom and gloom thoughts.
I started my nude life when I was 12 or 13 in my back yard at night, before I even knew what nudism or naturism was, I am now 75 and have never looked back.. FORTUNATELY for me the women in my life, if they were not already naturist, took to it immediately making my life much better! My current committed partner has never experienced social naturism but is very eager to. Places in northern Nevada don’t exist except Lake Tahoe but a stroke several years ago has caused me great mobility issues so that is out of the question!!
Reading through your post there were a couple of points I thought I’d comment on:
Sorry to dwell on the penis, but I was quite surprised by the statistics you quoted on size and the statistics in the article you linked to on the subject.
Before I go further on this, I want to be clear that what I am about to discuss is not intended to be a brag in any way, it’s simply to explain why I am surprised by the statistics “average flaccid lenth 3.5 inches and average erect length 5.1 inches (up to 5.6 in the linked article). I always thought I was more or less average or perhaps a small amount above average, but based on those figures I’m not. Mine has been measure a few times by female partners. It’s always been the same, 5.5 to 6 inches flaccid (that seems to vary) and 7.8 inches erect.
But I have never really noticed being any bigger than most others I see on the nudist beach. So I found those statistics surprising.
The other subject was being comfortable in the nude. I think I have always been comfortable in the nude by myself. But as I reached my 30’s I became very comfortable being nude around other people, but not only other nudists, anyone.
An example being when I was married my wife and I went on holiday (in the UK) with another couple. Non of them, including my wife, were nudists, and we weren’t at a nudist resort or even beach.
One afternoon sitting on the beach some (I think it was the other guy) joked that we should all go skinny dipping. No one did.
But that evening after we had eaten we decided to go for a walk along the beach. It was still warm but there weren’t many people on the beach especially at the far end of it. It was said again as a joke that we should go skinny dipping.
As we began to walk back along the beach I said to the others “I thought we were going skinny dipping!” and the response was “Go on then!” so I quickly stripped off and handed my clothes (tee shirts shorts and trainers) to my wife, and ran in to the sea in the nude. The water was nice and warm and I spent a few minutes in there.
When I came out of the sea I took my clothes back from my wife but didn’t put them on. She asked me if I wasn’t getting dressed and I told her I wasn’t yet as I was wet and as we had no towell with us I would have to wait until the air had dried me before I could get dressed. Although that was true, I was using it as an excuse. The truth was I didn’t want to get dressed, I was happy and comfortable in the nude even though the others were fully dressed. We walked a good 1/4 mile before I had to put my clothes back on and it was a great feeling. I was completely relaxed and comfortable being nude in front of my wife and our friends. And they were OK with it too.
Re: The concern over getting an erection, I write extensively about that in a story “trying naturism for the first time” in my St. Maarten website. Despite the fact that my story was based on what happened to me in 1978 on Orient Beach in St. Maarten (SXM), it applies today. I’ve been a practicing naturist since then and love it…especially at Orient Beach and at Cupecoy beach (baby beach and the big beach where Dany’s is). As a travel writer, I’m well known and often people of both sexes come up to me to introduce themselves. Women often ask for a hug, and why not? Once you’ve been a naturist for a while hugs are nice and not a “big” deal if you get my drift.
Sorry for posting on old posts. I went back and started at the beginning. I think I would definitely be comfortable steps 1-4 I think I would have the most trouble with 5-6. Spouse is not on board and it would be very weird to be naked with other people other than my spouse due to my upbringing.